Are you waiting on another woman’s blessing?

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I once waited months on this guy out of pride and insecurity.

God had made it clear that it was time for us to go our separate ways. Even the guy himself told me I should move on.

Yet, I spent months, hoping, contemplating, and fabricating that maybe he would come back to me.

I was living in my own imagination.

Even worse, God had made it clear that, although we dated, this guy was actually meant for someone else-not me!

But, despite the warning, I kept on with my imaginations.

I was stuck on another woman’s blessing.

If you’ve ever been in a situation like this, then you can relate.

Anytime God makes it clear that you should move away from a relationship, guy, or ex, yet you continue on with your imaginations-you are stuck on another woman’s blessing.

God hasn’t called you to be with that man or He’s told you to move on, yet, you have fantasies of him being the groom on your wedding day, naming your first son after his name, and even imagining what his last name will sound like attached to your first name. You are thinking a whole bunch of foolishness in your mind and this guy barely even knows you exist!

One of the worse results of imagination is that you can get upset with God for not meeting your expectations. You call yourself picturing a life with someone you weren’t supposed to focus on, then you get mad when you find out the guy was never yours anyway.

No mam!

We put faith in God, not our own desires.

I used to be you. So, let’s look at a few tips I’ve learned along the way that have helped me get out of the imagination zone. Here’s how to not be stuck on another woman’s blessing:

1. Is it OK to flirt with the idea of us getting together? – Well, let’s see. How would you feel if another woman was currently stuck on the blessing that was for you? Not good, right? Well, love your neighbor as yourself by only putting faith in what God says. If God hasn’t said something is for you, then your focus shouldn’t be on that desire. We don’t imagine. Instead, we believe God only. In 2 Corinthians 10:4-5, the Bible tells us to cast down all imaginations. My pastor, Dr. Shane Wall, preached an insightful sermon on the dangers of living according to our own imaginations. I encourage you to watch it here. Instead of imagining who your future spouse will be, just wait and see
2. But, I still have feelings, what do I do?– Well, you have other feelings that you fight when it’s convenient for you. Sometimes you don’t “feel” like going to work or school, yet you get up because you know it will reflect in your paycheck. Let’s not just move against our feelings when it’s what we want. We don’t walk by feelings, we walk by faith. The feelings may not go away, but I’ve learned that only what I feed will grow. As much as possible, avoid idle thoughts, talks, and time with the guy. As you continue to walk by faith instead of your feelings, that attraction will die if it’s not what God wants.
3. Yeah, but how do I keep my mind off of him? He’s so fine! – Look, avoiding idle texts and calls is only half the battle. After that space is vacant, you must be sure to replace that space with God’s Word on a daily basis. If you are already in His Word, now is the time to increase your time with Him. Clear your schedule and turn off the Netflix just to get closer to Him and doing so will help you to keep your mind on God, not your fantasies. God has promised that He will keep you at perfect peace when your mind is stayed on Him. (Isaiah 26:3). So do your part to keep your mind on God and God will do His part to guard you and keep you at peace.

Can you relate or not relate to waiting for a guy that wasn’t for you? Comment below to tell me.

Then, share this blog with one single friend who needs to know she’s worth more than waiting for someone that’s not for her.

Just a couple of things I want to share with you….

My conference for girls and college women…

1. I’m hosting a 1-day Christian Career Networking conference for middle, high school, and college girls on June 17!

The conference is based off my own testimony of working for notable companies like CNN, travelling the world, yet still being empty, not living for God’s Word and struggling with addiction and promiscuity.

My heart is to show women and girls that living for God is the truest form of success and being successful in His eyes while having the career He wants for you is possible! Seating is limited.

Register by April 30th to get a free business blazer with your registration! Check out DestinyConference.net for more info!

My book, FREE book sample, and FREE devotionals…

1. I encourage you to check out my book, I Believe in God, Now What?, which shares my story of overcoming addiction, promiscuity, rape, and a suicidal attempt to help you draw closer to God and move closer to becoming the woman He’s called you to be. Click here to buy the book or click here to get the free book sample.
2. Click here to get my book sample plus my free 27 day devotional, the 27 Day Bible Study Challenge, which will help you to learn to read the Bible and spend consistent time with Him.
3. Click here to get my book sample plus my free Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer Challenge devotional, which will teach you how to get a “yes” answer to your prayers and have a deeper prayer life.

Contact me with questions, prayer requests, etc.: Jordone@JordoneWrites.org

 

 

 

 

Why I’m Almost 30 and Not in a Rush to Get Married! + My Trip to South Africa!

Me and my fiancée Eddie horseback riding during my 27th birthday 🙂

So, I have two quick announcements for you:

• This past Saturday (March 11), I officially hit the 27 mark! Woo hoo!
• I am engaged!!!

Now, this time last year, it seemed like marriage and a relationship was the only thing on my mind.

At the time, I had just broken up with my boyfriend (who’s now my fiancée) and things were extremely rocky for me emotionally.

Even mentioning my ex’s name seemed to cause me to ball into tears.

To make matters worse, all around me, it seemed like everyone was either engaged, booed up, or already married. I would go out with other couples and feel like the “third wheel.” I felt so alone, lonely, and there was this deep sadness within me that God was revealing so He could heal.

Fast forward to this birthday and I’m almost the BIG 3-0!!

Yes, you know what they say about that age:

• Your clock is ticking
• You need to hurry up and freeze them eggs!
• Girl, when you going to hurry up and tie the knot. You ain’t gonna have no good men to choose from after awhile!

Yet, this year, I’m closer to 30, enjoying life more than last year, and my mind couldn’t be further away from the stereotypes.

Yes, I’m engaged, but, I’m in no rush to get married! I’m at peace and I’m totally content with God’s timing.

That last year of being 26, going through a single life with Jesus, and feeling like the odd ball really strengthened me!

I learned about:

• not being led by my emotions
• trusting God past how I feel
• Enjoying myself…by myself!

Truthfully, I needed that break up to prepare me for the journey of marriage that’s ahead of me.

It was my year of difficulty that prepared me for my year of engagement.

Yes, I know that marriage is in store for me. But, its not my total focus.

If you’ve found yourself in a part of your single life where marriage seems to be your only focus, you are constantly discontent with being by yourself, or you silently roll your eyes at your sister’s season of happiness, then I encourage you to do this one activity that helped me to keep my mind off myself during my break up and singleness: serve.

Yes, it’s just that simple.

Serve.

I’m not in a rush to get married because I’m too busy serving God.

If your focus is out of whack, you’ve lost your desire for God, and you spend more time looking at wedding dresses than meditating on scriptures, then I encourage you to pick up a mindset of servitude.

A wise man once told me that serving others (unto God of course) keeps our mind off of ourselves.

That simple piece of advice may very well be the best piece of wisdom I’ve ever heard. And, it’s true.

When I was single, only thinking about being single, and throwing a silent pity party, it was easy to sulk and difficult for God to move me forward.

Yet, as soon as I got my mind off myself, began to put others needs before my own, and got off my butt to serve, my whole outlook on life changed. Then, God could elevate me.

You think He’d let me get engaged if I was still whining about being single and going through a break up?

No way!

God loves me too much to let me enter a marriage with that immature mindset. And, He loves you too much to let you get married if your mind will only lead your marriage to disaster, too.

So, how did I serve and get my mind off myself?

Well, I would babysit other people’s kids for free, volunteer my time to help others, and put in extra time at work unto God.

No, I wasn’t working just to stay busy and keep things off my mind. I was working to serve as unto God.

I literally remember God telling me to get to work 30 minutes early to get extra work done. That 30 minutes of work everyday added up and before I knew it I had written another devotional: The Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer Challenge.

Dressed to preach in South Africa in Port Elizabeth…six souls rededicated and gave their lives to the Lord at the event! Praise God!

 

Now, I’m planning my first Christian girls’/women’s conference, recently preached in South Africa last year, going to start another book soon, and just finished recording an episode of the 700 club which will air late March/early April 2017!

Because I was faithful with the “little” ways of service unto God, He elevated me to more.

Now, marriage is in the picture, but, it’s not my entire focus. God and my assignments unto Him are my focus.

I’m not in a position where I’m forgetting about my first Love, Jesus, because He taught me how to humble my feelings, my desires, and keep my mind focused on Him.

 

 

A few selfies with the other speakers in South Africa: Cynthia Prime, Michelle McKinney Hammond, and the conference host Nonkoski.

Being focused on servitude and allowing God to elevate me also means I can bring something to the table in my marriage. I’ve learned to be a servant unto God, so now I can serve my future husband as unto, God, too.

If you are in a season where you can’t get a certain ex, a relationship, or marriage off your mind, I encourage you to get out of your pity party by getting back to serving unto God.

No, don’t get busy to “keep your mind off of singleness”.

As a matter of a fact, don’t be busy at all.

Be productive.

Be productive before the Lord by serving Him. Ask Him now what you can do to serve. Then, once you humble yourself, find yourself in His Word, and trust Him, you’ll find yourself in a completely different mindset where God can use you and elevate you for His glory.

Just a couple of things I want to share with you….

1. I’m hosting a 1-day Christian Career Networking conference for middle, high school, and college girls on June 17!

The conference is based off my own testimony of working for notable companies like CNN, travelling the world, yet still being empty, not living for God’s Word and struggling with addiction and promiscuity.

My heart is to show women and girls that living for God is the truest form of success and being successful in His eyes while having the career He wants for you is possible! Seating is limited. Register by April 30th to get a free business blazer with your registration! Check out DestinyConference.net for more info!

1. I encourage you to check out my book, I Believe in God, Now What?, which shares my story of overcoming addiction, promiscuity, rape, and a suicidal attempt to help you draw closer to God and move closer to becoming the woman He’s called you to be. Click here to buy the book or click here to get the free book sample.
2. Click here to get my book sample plus my free 27 day devotional, the 27 Day Bible Study Challenge, which will help you to learn to read the Bible and spend consistent time with Him.
3. Click here to get my book sample plus my free Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer Challenge devotional, which will teach you how to get a “yes” answer to your prayers and have a deeper prayer life.

 

Love,

Jordone@JordoneWrites.org

4 Ways to Know You’ve Been Waiting on Your Man for Too Long

Flashback to 2010..when I was being promiscuous and staying in relationships I didn’t belong in. God’s timing is perfect. Trust Him to lead you, not your feelings

Looking back, I can remember so many instances where I stayed in relationships out of pride, instead of love.

I was either too insecure to believe in waiting for God’s best, or I had too much pride to listen to God’s commands.

Either way, I always ended up wasting time and God either had to destroy the tie that I had created, or I had to learn the hard way that God was trying to protect me from a broken heart.

I can recall this one instance where I prayed, prayed, and prayed for this one particular guy to wake up and notice me. I spent at least a year holding on to something that God didn’t have for me.

I was waiting on a man for too long.

God kept trying to close the door on something that I was desperately trying to pry open.

I acted needy and desperate. I claimed to trust God with my life, but truthfully, I had more trust in my own abilities than His.

I had more faith in keeping someone around that wasn’t for me than actually letting someone go so God could do His work in my life.

So, how do you know if you’ve been holding on to a guy for too long? Here are 4 ways I had to learn the hard way. Learn from my mistakes:

1. God is pulling you a part but you keep holding on– Remember the story of Lot’s wife in the Bible? Lot, Lot’s wife, and his family were led by the Lord to leave the evil city of Sodom because of all its sin. Lot’s family was commanded by the Lord’s angels to not look back at Sodom as God destroyed it. In disobedience, Lot’s wife looked back at the city and she turned into a pillar of salt (Genesis 19).

The real error behind Lot’s wife decision wasn’t simply that she looked back, but her heart behind looking back.                 Her disobedience represented that her heart was still holding on to something that God was trying to destroy.                   Don’t let your heart be attached to something that God is trying to destroy.

You may be crying to the Lord to bless you with a “new” thing, but, just like Lot’s wife, if you’re still holding on to                the past in your heart, you’ll only take old ways into a new blessing.

1. He isn’t saved, but you hold on to him hoping you’ll get him to come to church– I’ve been guilty of this one too many times. Simply put, it’s not a woman’s heart that draws a man to God. It’s God’s love that draws Him to people.

You didn’t come to have a love for God by someone forcing Him down your throat. So, why do you think that’ll                    work with someone else?

It’s God’s love that brought you closer to Him. So, the longer you stay in a man’s way “hoping” you can “make”                   him get saved, the longer you could actually be blocking the blessing towards his salvation.

1. He attends church, but he isn’t obedient to what God says– Quoting scriptures, having a church title, or church ties don’t mean a man truly has a heart for the Lord. If God has truly shown you a guy’s heart, stop trying to make God a liar by trying to force yourself to see something that God has already said isn’t true. Trust God’s Word and move forward.
2. You believe you won’t be able to do better– God hasn’t given you a spirit of fear. If you don’t believe you’ll be able to do better, you’re operating out of fear, not faith. Cast that spirit of insecurity on to God by tearing apart from your idol relationship and replacing that time with God’s Word. Then, do a personal Bible study on “fear” by doing a word search for “fear” via BibleGateway.com.

Just a couple of things I want to share with you….

1. I’m hosting a 1-day Christian Career Networking conference for middle, high school, and college girls on June 17!

The conference is based off my own testimony of working for notable companies like CNN, travelling the world, yet still being empty, not living for God’s Word and struggling with addiction and promiscuity.

My heart is to show women and girls that living for God is the truest form of success and being successful in His eyes while having the career He wants for you is possible! Seating is limited. Register by April 30th to get a free business blazer with your registration! Check out DestinyConference.net for more info!

1. I encourage you to check out my book, I Believe in God, Now What?, which shares my story of overcoming addiction, promiscuity, rape, and a suicidal attempt to help you draw closer to God and move closer to becoming the woman He’s called you to be. Click here to buy the book or click here to get the free book sample.
2. Click here to get my book sample plus my free 27 day devotional, the 27 Day Bible Study Challenge, which will help you to learn to read the Bible and spend consistent time with Him.
3. Click here to get my book sample plus my free Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer Challenge devotional, which will teach you how to get a “yes” answer to your prayers and have a deeper prayer life.

 

 

Love,

Jordone@JordoneWrites.org