One Thing Every Single Woman Must do to Hear God About Her Husband (Part 2)

My fiancee Eddie and I taking engagement photos this past month. Click here to share this photo and blog!

When my boyfriend and I broke up (he’s currently now my fiancee and we are getting married in July), God revealed to me that I wasn’t in a position to hear Him about my husband because I didn’t know enough about myself.

I remember crying for months about that breakup. I would try to do sneaky things to try to run into him like conveniently do my running course near his house or try to stick around when he needed help with his business.

The truth is that I was only hurting myself by doing those things because I was hindering myself from the growth process. The more I tried to hold on to bits and pieces of the relationship, the harder it was to pull away and truly figure out who Jordone is.

Yes, I would pull away to be with God. But, a lot of the times as I pulled away, I was still focused on Eddie (my fiancee). Instead of praying to draw closer to God, I was praying about my emotions because I just wouldn’t let go.

I would beg God, “Lord, are we supposed to be together?” “Lord, is he the one?”

Then, one day, I finally realized that I had to move forward, let go, and trust God, regardless of the outcome.

When I finally let go, I began to enjoy that season of my life. I had been dating and having serious crushes since I was 15!

So, that breakup season was the first time in my life that I was finally alone with God without a man by my side or in my mind.

I became so content in the Lord and being single.

As I spent more time with Lord, I began to know more about who I was, what He’s called me to do, and what my purpose is for His Kingdom.

You see, it’s difficult to know who you are when you’re always with someone else. Likewise, it’s difficult to know who you are when you’re always thinking about someone else.

God needs an alone season with you prior to marriage. No dates. No crushes. No man in the back of your mind.

Just Him and you alone. As you grow in that personal alone time, you’ll grow to know more about Him. As you grow closer to Him, you’ll know more about who you are.

The one thing every single woman must know before she tries to hear God about her husband is her identity.

Who are you?

What has God called you to do?

How does God desire to use you for His kingdom?

Your job is what you do. Your identity is who you are. Know the difference.

Lastly, remember that one of the purposes of marriage is to help one another. How can a man help you if you don’t know who you are?

Be alone with God and find out who you are first. Don’t do it for a man, a husband, or for pride. Just do it for Him.

Then, watch how God moves in your life.

You’ll be so focused on the mission He’s assigned for you that a man will be the furthest thing from your mind.

Why do you think so many women struggle with wanting a husband before they know themselves? Comment below or share your thoughts with me via social media.

Did this blog inspire you? Then please share it with one woman who needs this inspiration, too. Click here to read part 1 of this blog.

A few quick things:

1. The Destiny Conference– I’m hosting a Christian Career conference on June 17th. Sunday, April 30th is the last day to receive a discount on early registration! Join us to be inspired, network, and have some fun! Watch the promo video here:

   Learn more about the conference by clicking here.

2. The 700 club – I was recently on the 700 club for sharing my testimony! Praise God! Click here to watch
3. My book sample– You can now read my book sample for free without signing up for my email list. Click here to read.

Love,

Email me with your prayer requests, questions or comments at Jordone (at) JordoneWrites (dot) org

 

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2. Why He’s NOT Going to be Your Husband
3. Learn to Hear God’s Voice Through My Prayer Challenge Devotional

4 Ways to Know You’ve Been Waiting on Your Man for Too Long

Flashback to 2010..when I was being promiscuous and staying in relationships I didn’t belong in. God’s timing is perfect. Trust Him to lead you, not your feelings

Looking back, I can remember so many instances where I stayed in relationships out of pride, instead of love.

I was either too insecure to believe in waiting for God’s best, or I had too much pride to listen to God’s commands.

Either way, I always ended up wasting time and God either had to destroy the tie that I had created, or I had to learn the hard way that God was trying to protect me from a broken heart.

I can recall this one instance where I prayed, prayed, and prayed for this one particular guy to wake up and notice me. I spent at least a year holding on to something that God didn’t have for me.

I was waiting on a man for too long.

God kept trying to close the door on something that I was desperately trying to pry open.

I acted needy and desperate. I claimed to trust God with my life, but truthfully, I had more trust in my own abilities than His.

I had more faith in keeping someone around that wasn’t for me than actually letting someone go so God could do His work in my life.

So, how do you know if you’ve been holding on to a guy for too long? Here are 4 ways I had to learn the hard way. Learn from my mistakes:

1. God is pulling you a part but you keep holding on– Remember the story of Lot’s wife in the Bible? Lot, Lot’s wife, and his family were led by the Lord to leave the evil city of Sodom because of all its sin. Lot’s family was commanded by the Lord’s angels to not look back at Sodom as God destroyed it. In disobedience, Lot’s wife looked back at the city and she turned into a pillar of salt (Genesis 19).

The real error behind Lot’s wife decision wasn’t simply that she looked back, but her heart behind looking back.                 Her disobedience represented that her heart was still holding on to something that God was trying to destroy.                   Don’t let your heart be attached to something that God is trying to destroy.

You may be crying to the Lord to bless you with a “new” thing, but, just like Lot’s wife, if you’re still holding on to                the past in your heart, you’ll only take old ways into a new blessing.

1. He isn’t saved, but you hold on to him hoping you’ll get him to come to church– I’ve been guilty of this one too many times. Simply put, it’s not a woman’s heart that draws a man to God. It’s God’s love that draws Him to people.

You didn’t come to have a love for God by someone forcing Him down your throat. So, why do you think that’ll                    work with someone else?

It’s God’s love that brought you closer to Him. So, the longer you stay in a man’s way “hoping” you can “make”                   him get saved, the longer you could actually be blocking the blessing towards his salvation.

1. He attends church, but he isn’t obedient to what God says– Quoting scriptures, having a church title, or church ties don’t mean a man truly has a heart for the Lord. If God has truly shown you a guy’s heart, stop trying to make God a liar by trying to force yourself to see something that God has already said isn’t true. Trust God’s Word and move forward.
2. You believe you won’t be able to do better– God hasn’t given you a spirit of fear. If you don’t believe you’ll be able to do better, you’re operating out of fear, not faith. Cast that spirit of insecurity on to God by tearing apart from your idol relationship and replacing that time with God’s Word. Then, do a personal Bible study on “fear” by doing a word search for “fear” via BibleGateway.com.

Just a couple of things I want to share with you….

1. I’m hosting a 1-day Christian Career Networking conference for middle, high school, and college girls on June 17!

The conference is based off my own testimony of working for notable companies like CNN, travelling the world, yet still being empty, not living for God’s Word and struggling with addiction and promiscuity.

My heart is to show women and girls that living for God is the truest form of success and being successful in His eyes while having the career He wants for you is possible! Seating is limited. Register by April 30th to get a free business blazer with your registration! Check out DestinyConference.net for more info!

1. I encourage you to check out my book, I Believe in God, Now What?, which shares my story of overcoming addiction, promiscuity, rape, and a suicidal attempt to help you draw closer to God and move closer to becoming the woman He’s called you to be. Click here to buy the book or click here to get the free book sample.
2. Click here to get my book sample plus my free 27 day devotional, the 27 Day Bible Study Challenge, which will help you to learn to read the Bible and spend consistent time with Him.
3. Click here to get my book sample plus my free Proverbs 31 Woman Prayer Challenge devotional, which will teach you how to get a “yes” answer to your prayers and have a deeper prayer life.

 

 

Love,

Jordone@JordoneWrites.org